Episode 38: Dads Grieve Too
“The king was shaken, and went up to the room over the city gate and wept. He said as he wept, “My son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you, Absalom, my son, my son!” - 2 Samuel 19:1
Summary:
In this episode, Elizabeth Leon hosts a poignant discussion with bereaved fathers Brian Laspisa and Edward Luersman about the unique grief experienced by fathers who have lost children. They share their personal stories of loss, the challenges of navigating grief, and the importance of community support through organizations like Red Bird Ministries. The fathers reflect on how their experiences have reshaped their identities and their understanding of fatherhood, ultimately finding hope and purpose in their journeys. They discuss how grief impacts relationships and spirituality, and how embracing both human emotions and faith can lead to healing. The conversation concludes with reflections on the strength found in shared experiences and the resources available for those navigating similar journeys.
Takeaways:
Dads experience grief just as deeply as mothers do.
The experience of loss can reshape one's identity as a father.
Faith can provide comfort and understanding during grief.
Finding meaning in suffering can lead to personal transformation.
Fathering looks different in the context of loss.
Counseling can provide essential support during grief.
Men and women process grief differently.
Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.
Revealing grief to partners strengthens relationships.
Marriage can grow stronger through shared grief.
Discussion Questions:
How comfortable are you sharing your grief with your wife? With other men?
How has your identity as a father changed after the death of your child?
What kind of grief support have you experienced? How do you view vulnerability as related to strength and courage?